Tuesday 3 September 2019

Remembering Grandma Rita: Obituary


Rita M. Wysong  


On Thursday, July 25, 2019 of Gaithersburg, MD. Beloved wife of the late Robert C. Wysong; Loving mother of Linda, Susan, Mary, Bob, John and their spouses. Also survived by 14 grandchildren and their spouses and five great-grandchildren. Friends may call at DeVol Funeral Home, 10 East Deer Park Drive, Gaithersburg, MD on Monday from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. Mass of Christian Burial will be offered at St. John Neumann Catholic Church, 9000 Warfield Road, Gaithersburg, MD 20882 on Tuesday, July 30, 2019 at 11 p.m. Interment Gate of Heaven Cemetery.

Monday 2 September 2019

Remembering Grandma Rita: That's Where Ms. Rita Is

Mauro Gonzalez is now 15.
Here he is at around 8 to 10 years old, at home, with Grandpa and Grandma's
wedding anniversary newspaper clipping posted on the family refrigerator

 

My Favorite Place: 

Visiting Ms. Rita by Mauro Gonzalez

My name is Mauro Gonzalez, & in brief: I recently found out about Rita Wysong's passing & I wanted to write something about her. I found this email through the Wysong family blog, & I'm assuming you're the daughter, Linda? Though let me explain myself.

Ms. Rita & Bob's neighbors in Frenchton Place was this Hispanic family with three sons. I'm the youngest, Mauro. Today, my mother found an old photo of me, & in the background was a newspaper clipping on the fridge, labelled 'Wysong', & I suddenly got curious about what happened to my old neighbors, then found Ms. Rita's obituaries. When I told my parents what I found, they were also sad about her passing, & I had a sudden urge to find someone related to the family who I could send something about our sweet neighbors.

Growing up, I have this constant memory of Ms. Rita buying us chocolates & toys for us kids around Easter & I think Christmas as well. I remember particularly one spring day opening up the door to find a box full of toy cars, which I then played with all morning. This is how I remember those two; as the sweet elderly couple that lived next door.

I don't know the extent of my parents' interactions with them, but my parents did very much love them. Ms. Rita is one of those people to me, where I don't remember ever first meeting her or learning her name; she was always there. Seemingly as long as we lived in 19335 Frenchton Place, Ms. Rita would always be our neighbor.

When they wrote their book of memoirs on their journeys in the foreign service, Ms. Rita gave us a free copy & I was excited to have it. I also remember going into her home with my mom, Bob watching old black-&-white movies on the TV, them asking me what my favorite subjects were in school.

One night I remember looking out of my window, & seeing an ambulance in front of their house, with a crowd of neighbors around. I wanted to go out, but my parents didn't want me to. Soon we found out that Ms. Rita had been taken to the hospital. My mom & I visited her, & talked to her for a while. That night I had a homework assignment, and one of the questions was what was my favorite place to go. I was half-way through writing Hershey Park, before I put 'visiting Ms. Rita' as the answer.

When they eventually moved out to Asbury, Ms. Rita gave my mom a key to the house. I remember walking through it, all empty. I found a blank postcard on the ground & took it with me as a keepsake.

The other day on the way to the dentist, we passed by the retirement home & I thought to myself 'That's where Ms. Rita is'.

I guess it's a symbol of how loved they were by the Gonzalez family to have that newspaper clipping up on the fridge. When I saw the obituaries, it hit me in a way that I hadn't felt in a while. My own grandmother (a fiercely independent woman) recently had a stroke, which rendered her reliant on nurses & helpers in a retirement home. She's 82, lived by herself until now. I also once had to call an ambulance on a friend a month ago; the EMTs said to her that if I didn't call she would've died. I think it would've been the same week of Rita's passing. Just reminds you of how fragile life is, & that you have to enjoy it while it lasts.

Best regards,
Mauro Gonzalez

Remembering Grandma Rita: A Brief History



ABOUT THE LIVES

OF RITA AND BOB WYSONG


Rita and her husband Bob fell in love with each other and married
while they both served in the U.S. military forces following the end
of WWII. Soon after, Bob became a foreign service officer for the
diplomatic consular service. Together they started their new lives,
experiencing different cultures, situations, languages and cuisines of
the many countries where Bob was stationed. Rita, Bob, and their five
children each have vivid, fond memories of places such as Mexico,
Yucatan, Brazil, Saudi Arabia, Lebanon and Sudan.

Rita was a devoted wife and raised her family with unconditional love
and total acceptance. She taught them to love others, and never be
judgmental of anyone. As a result, her children grew up with a strong
and loving bond to each other and parents.

Rita had a love for art, music, cooking the cuisines she had picked
up, greatly influencing her children and grand children. Her main
interest was in writing. While growing up in Mitchell South Dakota, she
was very proud of her role as the school's newspaper contributor and
editor. After retiring from Social Services in Montgomery county,
Rita wrote about all of her life as a State Department wife,
publishing her book "Packing Up and Moving On", which had a 5-star
rating with Amazon.com.

She also had a great sense of humor. One of her favorite annual events
was to play April fools jokes on her children, loved receiving them as
well. She and Bob also enjoyed and laughed at hilarious Thanksgiving
skits playfully written about their quirks, and acted out by family
members.

Bob and Rita lived out their retirement years surrounded by their loving
children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. All celebrations,
holidays and events were centered around the family and especially
patriarch Grandpa Bob and matriarch Grandma Rita. They both will be
sorely missed, but there is comfort knowing they are reunited.

                                              --- Robert Lawrence Wysong

Sunday 1 September 2019

Remembering Grandma Rita: When They Came To Visit

 

Uncle Bob & Aunt Rita

Our thoughts are with the entire family as you mourn the loss and celebrate the life of aunt Rita. I always enjoyed seeing and visiting uncle Bob and aunt Rita when they came to visit us throughout the years. May you all find comfort in all the beautiful memories you share.
July 31, 2019
- Mark & Sandy Wysong

Saturday 31 August 2019

Remembering Grandma Rita: So Encouraging And Understanding

Your Mother Was Very Special To Me

By Sharon Wysong Olwin




There is definitely a feeling of connection  and I have long regretted that I haven’t known my cousins as adults. There are great memories from visits when we were younger and also when Roger and I visited at your parents when Stephanie was about 16 months.

Your mother was very special to me. Very easy to talk with and was so encouraging and understanding during the time my mom was sick. She had a very interesting life and loved her children and grandchildren very much. Every holiday she would send pictures (especially the Thanksgiving celebration) and obviously enjoyed every minute of those times.

We got back from vacation last week so I finally have been able to look at some old pictures to send. There is a picture of your Mom and Dad on her birthday that I love – your family probably has it already. Also some pictures of Minnesota visits – one at the cabin mom and dad rented up north every summer, some at their house, some at our first and second houses, and one of you and I at your house! We also have some pictures that you might like of a fishing trip Uncle Bob took with Roger on our first boat up on Lake Superior.

Hope you enjoy them. Please share with Susan, Mary, Bob & John. I don’t have their contact information but just want to send all of you hugs and say that we miss your mother too.

Love to all, Sharon



 


 


Thursday 29 August 2019

Wednesday 28 August 2019

Remembering Grandma Rita: Grandma Loved To Laugh

Rita & Bob Were Extraordinarily Lucky

By Jeremy Weld


Grandma Rita loved to laugh. She enjoyed it whether the joke was on her or on someone else. She laughed every year through the skits her kids and grandkids made up to help her and Bob celebrate their anniversary which were largely based around silly things she and Grandpa Bob did. She thought they were so funny she sent recordings of them so we could all laugh too. Not only was she quick to laugh, but she was very game and up to a challenge.

One only needs to read her book to see how challenging living in the Foreign Service is. And think of her piling into a car to head north to Alaska with you all camping the whole way. And although we sometimes laugh remembering the giant king salmon she caught -- it is well known in Alaska that the treacherous Klutina River, where she caught it, is one of the hardest rivers in the state to actually bring a salmon to shore on.

She was lucky to have a sharp mind right up to the end of her life. Furthermore, Rita and Bob were extraordinarily lucky to have kids who devoted so many years to helping her and Bob land softly. I have often said that the best we can hope for is to have someone on this side to comfort us as we go and someone waiting on the other to greet us as we arrive. I know Bob is as grateful to Susan, Bobby, John and Mary for the extraordinary effort you have made to make her comfortable and secure in her final years - as are Linda and I.
July 27, 2019
- Jeremy Weld

Remembering Grandma Rita: Love From Julia

From One Great Writer & Cook To Another

Grandma Rita's Letter From Julia Child




Monday 26 August 2019

Remembering Grandma Rita: On The Open Ocean In A Wheat Chex Sweater

Wearing one of Mom's homemade sweaters while crossing the Atlantic.

 

Living The High Life With Grandma Rita

By Linda Wysong Weld 

Grandma Rita was always quite the lady. When you looked at her in her older years, you could still see it. She had put Ponds Cold Cream on her face every single night when she was younger. I can still remember her standing there in the bathroom, peering in the mirror, and dabbing it here and there.

You never knew. You just might want to look really terrific as you aged.

And, she DID look really terrific. She always dressed so nicely, too. Her clothes when she was in her 90's were very reminiscent of her clothes decades earlier. Tailored, attractive, layered...

But she was also practical.  She was smack between two cultures. She grew up in South Dakota and she lived the "the high life" in the Foreign Service. She chose bits and pieces of both these very different lives.

At heart, she liked making things. She knit sweaters for everybody: Grandpa, me, Grandpa's mom in Indiana... Her sweaters were very distinctive. They were made of little squares -- kind of like Wheat Chex, all piled up on each other. And the arms were always ridiculously long, as if she had made an article of clothing for a gorilla instead of a 12-year old girl.  She chose unique and unexpected colors, too. Like baby blue.

I liked her sweaters. I wore them all the way through my years at Belt Jr. High, and then on to Wheaton High School, even though they were probably wildly unfashionable at the time.

Here's a picture of me and Mom, on an ocean liner (either the Independence or the Constitution) coming back to the United States from Beirut. Mom is in her lovely little tailored outfit, with a French scarf and high heels. I am in one of her wonderful sweaters (see the long, long sleeves all rolled up) and I'm wearing saddle shoes.

If you look really closely, you can see that Mom is carrying a knitting bag, with the knitting needles poking out. You never knew. Perhaps there would suddenly be a random minute or two to work on yet another Wheat Chex sweater to present (all wrapped up quite carelessly in white tissue paper tied with thin little string) to some unsuspecting relative next Christmas!

Thursday 25 July 2019

Christmas With Grandpa Bob

Chestnuts Roasting On An Open Fire

In 1960, our family came back to the United States from Lebanon. We settled down, for a while, in Downtown Washington, D.C.  We were in a strange part of the city where the desperate slums met high society. A phenomenon that is common enough in many large cities, like Boston, or New York, or Washington.

We lived for awhile in the great Mayflower Hotel, in a suite, with a kitchenette. The suite had a number of rooms, and ornate furniture and desks, with leather trim. There was a concierge at the hotel -- a lot like the concierge in the movie, Pretty Woman, who takes an interest in helping Julia Roberts learn to be high society.

When our dad took Suzy and me downstairs, and asked where the nearest school was -- it was winter -- the concierge clearly tried to dissuade Dad of sending us out into the nearby community. Basically, the nearest schools were in the heart of the D.C. slums. Yet, I had already gone to over half a dozen different schools already in my life, and this was no different. So off we went.

My school had large staircases, and what seemed like thousands and thousands of students. In that whole school, only one other student -- a boy -- was also identifiably "white." (Suzy went to another school.) The food in my school cafeteria was terrible. It was hard to believe it was really"food." It seemed to be a mashup of leftovers. Nobody ate it. Fortunately, as an alternative to a real meal, there were candy machines at the school -- which, to me, seemed amazing. For 5 cents I could buy a Pay Day peanut candy bar for lunch. Which is what I did. Day after day.

The Mayflower Hotel was fancy. Dignitaries who were staying in the hotel lounged around downstairs in a kind of reading room, poring over the Washington Post and New York Times, and smoking cigars and cigarettes.

The Mayflower suite we were in had huge, gilt-framed mirrors in the living room. In those days, it seemed that our parents frequently went out for evening social events, even though they had just arrived. After the small children went to bed I would turn on that exotic, new device -- a black and white television set -- and watch, by myself, forbidden shows like "The Outer Limits." Which, with no built up immunity from watching television, scared me to death. Especially the time the show was about ghosts, billowing out of huge gilt-framed mirrors. Exactly like the many expensive mirrors that the Mayflower had thoughtfully installed on many walls in the suite surrounding me.

Christmas was coming in Washington, D.C. in 1960. And Mom sent Dad and me out into the night streets to drum up whatever we could of holiday cheer.

The Mayflower Hotel is on Connecticut Avenue. We walked northwest of the hotel, several blocks, to Dupont Circle. I remember it was windy and cold, and maybe even raining. Out at the intersections of the streets, people were standing in the cold. They were tending  blazing, charcoal-filled braziers, right on the streets. They were roasting chestnuts. You could buy a little brown paper bag full of hot chestnuts (and they were really very very hot.) Dad bought some, and we burned our mouths, trying to eat them as we were standing there at the stoplights.

Dad said that when he was young, the chestnut trees of America had begun to die off from a terrible fungus. He said these chestnuts we were eating were not American chestnuts, but Chinese chestnuts. The chestnut tree had once blanketed America, with huge trees everywhere -- one in four trees was a chestnut in many parts of the country. By the time Dad had grown up, the chestnuts were almost all dead. And, in our childhoods, Dad would occasionally drive by some shriveling young trees -- American chestnuts -- that were helplessly trying to survive, but that were in the process of dying from the chestnut blight. He said the Chinese chestnuts we had bought tasted quite a bit like American chestnuts.

At Dupont Circle there were news stands, which sold tobacco, magazines, tabloids and newspapers, and gum. One of them also had a small tabletop Christmas tree for sale. Which Dad bought, and triumphantly carried back down the boulevard to the waiting family at the Mayflower Hotel.

Somewhere along the line, he also found a big bag of mixed shelled nuts.

Basically, our Christmas in Washington D.C. was a very urban Christmas. But, urchins that we all were, we hardly fit into the highlife of the Mayflower Hotel. We discovered we could crack the shells of the Christmas nuts by putting them into the windowsill of a small wooden window sash in the little kitchen in the suite. We'd bang the window down on the nuts, again and again, cracking them open, and denting the wood of the window sash.

Not much later, Dad had found a house in a place called Wheaton, on a street called "Elby" Street -- easy to remember because it sounded a lot like the Italian Island of Elba, in Italy. He had bought the house through a kind of huckster salesman, who had his sales office up at the movie theater complex on the main highway. Dad took me to see the Elby Street house right after he bought it that winter, and before we moved in. When we arrived, he couldn't find it, because all the streets looked so similar, and the houses so half-built, and there was no landscaping to speak of. So we had to go find the salesman, at the movie theater, and he showed us where it was.

And then, our lives became suburban.

--Linda Wysong Weld 






Monday 12 November 2018

Fall of 2018: Gaithersburg Gatherings!

Google-Eyed Gatherings In Gaithersburg

Dahlia and Grandma 


Suzy, Grandma Rita & Bob


Suzy, Grandma Rita and Kyle



Thursday 1 March 2018

Looking Back At Grandpa Bob & Grandma Rita's Life On The Internet

What Was Grandpa Bob's "Formal" And "Official"
Persona Like -- In Those Days Before Facebook
And The Internet?
(And a peek at Grandma's too.)

Here's some help from Lori...